My whole life is time management.
Kendall is a mom of 3 and trains 4-5 days per week, often twice per day. When I heard about her story, I couldn’t help but share it. I do a lot, running 3 websites, a BJJ brand, and about to launch a podcast on top of working full time and being the best dad and husband I can be. But, her time management skills put me to shame. Without further, ado, let me introduce you to Kendall. – Brendan
I train 4-5 days a week ,sometimes twice a day now that I have decided to compete in the Pan Ams. I also have three children ages 1, 3 and 7.
How she does it
They come to the gym with me everyday.
In order to train this intensely and cart along three kids I have to make a solid plan everyday. I take care of all laundry, meal prep, and major housekeeping on the weekends. I will hit maybe one open mat on Saturdays if the kids aren’t too burnt out.
During the week I train Monday through Thursday. I take six bjj classes and help instruct a womens class at my gym and also do strength and conditioning. Thankfully my gym is like a family. They have a dedicated area for the kids and everyone pitches in keeping an eye on them.
My oldest and I do homework at the gym after his kids class. I pack them snacks and have a stash of toys and movies for them while I train. I make dinner beforehand so we have a hot meal when we get home. I throw my gis in the washer as soon as we walk in the door. I do two loads of gym clothes a day and have four gis on rotation.
I have a scheduled non jiu jitsu date with my husband every Friday. I say non- jiu jitsu because he also trains and we spend a lot of time as a family at the gym.
It is never as pretty as it looks writing it down and some days feel like controlled chaos. No matter how organized I am or how carefully I schedule, life still pops up.
I constantly check myself to make sure I am providing my kids with what they need . I watched a tribute video to women of jiu jitsu and one of them was quoted saying she wouldn’t be a champion after she had children.
It made me sad because training as a family is one of our greatest joys.
I compete once a month during tournament season and my kids are right there on the medal podium with me. I know I may never be a world champion and that’s ok. I do know at the end of the day I am setting an example for my children by taking care of my body, setting goals , and following my dreams.
I don’t think they resent my training because they are surrounded by people who love them, play with them and teach them important lessons. I get to have my own bjj village help me embark on this journey of motherhood and support me in all aspects.
My instructor has changed my kids diapers, held them so I can roll. My teammates play jiu jitsu with them after class. Their significant others help watch them during class. It truly is an amazing thing.
I also have had the opportunity to help start a women’s program at my gym. Every woman who walks in the door is invited to come roll. There are a few if us all with children who can relate to the struggle and thankfully our kids are a little pack who keep each other entertained. We motivate each other during our moments of doubt and are proud of each other for our successes as women in the bjj community.
Some people aren’t impressed with my lifestyle or say it isn’t for them but I wouldn’t have it any other way.